Discussion Questions
Think about your own childhood. Did your parents help you talk through your more challenging experiences? Give an example.
What is one major benefit of being present and allowing a child to tell and retell their story? What obstacles get in the way of that?
Think about the last time you were with a child who became disintegrated. Describe what happened.
If it’s true that every interaction you have with a person plays a part in shaping your brain and the other person’s, how does knowing that change the value you place on those interactions?
According to p. 9, what is the difference between resolved and unresolved fear?
On which side of the “river of well-being” do you tend to find yourself more? What does that look like for you, and how do you navigate your way back to the healthy middle of the river?
Provide a recent example you have seen of getting too close to the bank of rigidity, and another example of getting too close to the bank of chaos.